FAQ (still a w.i.p)
1. Why don’t you accept applicants who are [non-intersex] afab AND white?
Most of our mods are white and (non-intersex) afab. Most trans advice blogs have this issue. It’s a serious problem, because we don’t have any experience with being amab and trans, or trans poc, or trans and intersex– therefore can’t give fitting advice.
It’s an entirely different situation, and we can’t give advice for situations we aren’t, never were, and never will be in.
** As of 2.3.17 we are NOT looking for mods at the moment **
2. I’m cis. May I ask a question?
Yes. However, keep in mind this space is not directed towards you. Please ask your question respectfully and [this page] is for cis folks!
3. I’m not sure of my gender. What am I?
[Here] is a questioning resource page.
4. What does [term] mean?
5. [Name / pronoun question]
6. Should I come out?
It’s different depending on your situation, but the advice is always the same. If it puts you in danger, don’t come out.
If you don’t know if the person you want to come out to will be okay with you being trans, try to talk to them about trans issues. If they respond well, it’s probably safe to come out. If not, you know not to.
7. How should I come out?
[This] is a coming out page!! it has lots of ideas regarding how to come out.
8. Do you have any material I could show my parent(s) / guardian(s)?
Yep! [Here you go]
9. [binding question]
See [this FAQ] and [here] is a masterpost if you are not able to get a binder.
10. What’s a TERF / SWERF?
T[W]ERF - [ trans [women] exclusionary radical feminist ]
SWERF - [ sex worker exclusionary radical feminist ]
11. Why haven’t you answered my question?
We receive many asks on a daily basis that we just don’t have time to respond to them all. We (as mods) have lives, schedules, and other businesses that demand our attention. A lot of the mods are mentally / physically disabled and lack a consistent supply of energy to dedicate to the blog in a beneficial manner.
On another note, we CANNOT answer asks that contain the following subjects:
This is due to legal reasons + an effort to keep the mods safe as well.
12. Is it okay to request that a specific mod respond to my question?
Of course!!
13. [Otherkin questions]
This is not the blog for that. However, some of our mods may be otherkin– so feel free to send them a message on their personal blogs.
For the record, otherkin and being trans are NOT mutually exclusive. Otherkin, for many folks is a spiritual identity, for some it’s a way of coping.
14. Am I valid / trans if [x, y, z]?
Yes.
The only thing that determines your gender is YOU. It’s okay not to want to come out. It’s fine if you don’t want HRT / surgery. It’s a-okay if you like stereotypical things as your gender assigned at birth.
Names, pronouns, appearance, or any other factor does not enhance or rob you of your validity as a trans person.
15. Do I have to have dysphoria to be “really trans”?
Not necessarily.
There are different types of dysphoria– mental, emotional, physical, and social.
[This post] elaborates on the concept more
16. I’m having a bad [dysphoria] day… any resources?
Yeah!
[This page is geared toward combating dysphoria] and [here is a page full of calming links]
17. Is it normal to doubt your trans-ness?
Yeah, it’s totally common. In fact, a lot of trans/nonbinary folks go through this at point or another.